In MANNERS POWER is a drive to succeed that is over and above wishing that your dream comes true. Medical students in their 3rd and 4th year will not say that being on the hospital grounds from 6 am to 6 pm and beyond, plus study a 1200+ pages thome is very tough. His Family will.

The expression "you have to kill yourself to succeed" is the way to "put yourself on the map." Sure it is possible to get a law-degree, do not marry, specialize in real-estate, date beautiful girls and fade-away from overindulgence. No problem. No world-wide fame.

Thanks to newspaper and magazine reports, the ones who do not rest until they found a cure for an illness, the lawyer who gets into politics, reaches an appreciable level of income and takes on mediating in a strike, or organized crime, labour disputes,.. gets applause.

A young friend asked me about Cafe WIM. How could he do that too. I din't want to say "kill yourself c." Yet, you will deal with more fatique then you thought at first. The medical student, the tough lewyer, the man with two jobs per 24 hrs know the expression well.

When I am not meeting friends at Virtual Cafe WIM, I have time to put experiences on paper that I read-up on. Good manners as exemplified in The Little Lord Fauntleroy however sweet and un-real may give an idea of its power, just as good hand-writing does for relaxation.

Know what you want and do what it takes is what I found quite helpful in avoiding a hit in traffic, a fall of the roof, clearing snow in winter and over-doing the garden no matter how attractive getting things finished in one day is.

As the radio annoucer said warning American soldiers about partying at midnight, "Now take it easy on the raod, THE LIFE YOU SAVE....MAYBE YOUR OWN. Beautiful deep baritone voice. So, a pause gets you there faster.

See you in a few days as things are getting hotter and better. For now it was INTERMISSION on the way to MANNERS POWER that will be further discussed around a table in Virtual Cafe WIM

Reality Check

In the INTERMISSION blog, I said that my young friend asked me if he could (build a cafe) too.  I didn't want to say to the youngster, "you have to kill yourself..", but a higher age audience, such as Cafe WIM true and honourable Guests in the 80s and 90s, may be amused to hear a list on "how to kill yourself." A few items that made the short list,

Reality Check: 

--  operating capital that has to be repaid with interest;

--  reserve sq ft to buy or rent;

--  furniture, equipment, tools, decorative ambience-setting interior decorating, tables, chairs. More or less things you'd like for your own house, but you sleep on a rice-mat;

--  your own house has no t.v., saving 7 - 800.00 per year, or more;

--  you have no car; saving $ 5.000.00 or more per year. Food is brought-in by bicycle with big rear-wheel carrier and side bags;

--  you drink water; using a diet that centers on carrots and sole fish;

--  you avoid the opposite sex. You want to proceed but take no risk;

--  you shave with a 'One-Time-Only" razor-blade for a year;

--  you will write calming, soothing, accommodating letters to your next-door neighbour who hassles refined, elegant, glamorous working Staff and in fits of jalousy threatens a hostile take-over;

--  you will deal with Inspectors, and spend time on up-dating courses of sorts; 

--  you will play chess that you know litle about so Guests win by default and feel good;  

--  you will arrange that Guests are entertained with (expensive)fashion shows, poetry-readings, mimes, travelling troubadour musicians, and permanent (wall-)art shows;

--  you will keep an eye on walk-outs and a way to safeguard Guests payments;

--  you will, I am quite sure you do far, far more than that and when you think it kills you, you begin to make money after about 7 years.

--  you discover that THE WORLD tippy-ioes in: officers in Afganistan drug rings, shadows on the run for the FBI, post-graduate purpe haired hippies next to high government dignitaries, people who come-in on a whim (h ? ), but then decidedly on purpose (Joseph Maingot LLD.)

--  you will find yourself, shortly after you thought this would kill you, mentioned in The New York Times, Telegraaf International, Michelin Guid, get recognized outside Canada, even a lady in the Secretariat of the Cathedral, shouting, "oh,the bikini shows, delightful."

You see your future spead-out if you have the advantage of being a Dutchman and mold all this to fit  "a touch-of-Dutch." Succulent details of cafe ownership that is guided by distant parents who added from birth a touch of Manners Power, will come-out in book-form in October 1916.

Try to sleep well.  


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07.09 | 19:54

Delightful. Contact, nice and gentle makes my Big Day.
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07.09 | 15:12

Whether blogs or books, your way with words is both whimsical and interesting. You are a delightful inspiration - please keep writing! Happy Birthday Dad 💝

04.05 | 10:09

Hello. I too would love a copy of the book. I spent many a happy afternoon and evening at Wim in my teens. It was a home away from home.

14.03 | 15:21

Where oh where or How do i buy the book ? i cannot find it :(

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