When I look around, I'd say Virtual Cafe WIM is in session. I also see that you look with antici-pation what usuable advice might come from my very rich Mamma whose richesse was down after all the idiosy of the 1940-1945 WW but not the wealth of most
Oke, Wim, still cold outside. We came in to warm-up and hear your story on purpose, not on a whim. Cold winds blew us indoors and.. what better place.I
Sitting still by myself made me chilly. You all now here warms
my being. Look outside !! The windows are muddied by traffic going through a puddle. Uncontolably messy. I just came back from my friend's room. A display of, shall we say self management. Nice feel.
We remember what you said about your Mammas'
view on manners that seems to include self management. Right?
My friend, the man of means, the one who left out all manner of addiction in favour of investing in fine craftsmen work left out the expense of a butler. Why not a butler? I asked. You
have a place well polished and well-dusted. Such a man befits your life-style.
A really good butler is hard to find.
My friend's answer to that? Personnel is tempted to abscond with things of great beauty. A butler is a man of
good taste, just down on his luck. I asked how he did maintain such fine appearance. His answer simply, I am the butler.
Excellent. How can he keep that up? He does work, doesn't he?
Yes, he is a copy writer and paid well for his labour.
On top of which he does all the upkeep of his place like butler?
He likes to polish and wash, This is an important point. However high the aversion of tackling the matter at hand, going right through it and do it anyway is an exercise in
building strenghth. Having control, Leading to self management. Good manners are evident.
Aha, and acquiring good manners and subsequent high success is what you are after, Yes?
Take the washing dishes aversion. This is my friends' reply.
"I am a cpywriter. I need fresh lines. The little washes is the place to get ideas. How to write down a good line with wet hands? Apart from that putting my carefully chosen crockery in designated places, great."
Does he cook?
have the impression that he does. It seems that he uses fruit. He goes by Mother Nature. Having a strong urge for a sweet something? Berries, or rasp an apple with a bit of cinnamon, Banana, figs, dates. Green tea. Coconut butter on 7-grain bread.
is the reason for fastidious cleaning up, like a butler would, or cleaning person?
I wondered about that. Rare for a man of means. I asked him. "I am proud of what I have put together. I want my place to be absolutely perfect when I come back.
I have every part under control. I cannot find such good man's man. The place shines. I am the butler."
Strong and free man.
He has that part of good manners in place. There are more samples of building your own world that my good friend
tells me about at a free moment in a cafe. Life without addictions. Keeping a distance between the now and eternity......
Very interesting, you good old cafe-keeping man, Wim, son of a wise Mamma. We are
on our way. Really curious what more she told you about manners. Did you tell us that there is a bit of naughtyness as well?
See you soon, Wim